Social Anxiety

Social anxiety involves an intense fear of being judged, embarrassed, or rejected in social or performance situations. Kids may freeze in class, avoid parties, or feel sick before meeting new people. Teens might skip presentations or isolate online to escape discomfort.

Quick facts

• Common triggers: speaking up in class, eating in public, meeting new peers, or being the centre of attention.
• Physical signs: blushing, shaky voice, racing heart, or upset stomach.
• Impact: missed opportunities for friendships, school avoidance, and low self-confidence.

First steps for parents

• Name it gently. Label the worry: “Sounds like you’re scared others might judge you.”
• Model brave talk. Share times you felt nervous and what helped.
• Practise micro‑exposures. Wave at a neighbour, order food, or answer one question in class—skills taught in our Anxiety Skills group (9–12).
• Celebrate effort, not outcome. Praise the brave step, even if it felt awkward.

Parents can learn supportive responses in one‑on‑one coaching or our SPACE training.

Treatment options at FFEW

• Individual therapy using CBT and exposure for children 8‑10 and teens 11‑19.
• Group practice in Parenting Anxious Children and kid groups where peers encourage each other.
• Parent coaching through the Children with Anxiety program to reduce well‑meant avoidance.

Explore related topics: Childhood Anxiety | Emotional & Behavioural Regulation | Depression & Mood

Clinicians experienced with social anxiety

• Dr. Zia Lakdawalla – CBT, DBT, and parent involvement.
• Dr. Tamara Meixner – CBT and attachment‑focused support.
• Cassandra Harmsen – ACT and EFFT for anxiety and self‑esteem.
• Charlotte Johnston – DBT and neurodivergent‑affirming care.
• Jaydon Frid – CBT and family‑systems approaches.

FAQs — Social Anxiety

1. Is social anxiety just shyness?

Shyness is a temperament; social anxiety causes significant distress and avoidance that interferes with daily life.

2. Can social anxiety cause school refusal?

Yes. Fear of peers or presentations can lead to avoidance. See our entry on School Refusal for strategies.

3. Will exposure make things worse?

When done gradually and supportively, exposure builds confidence. We teach step‑by‑step plans in individual therapy.

4. What if my teen only socialises online?

Online contact can help but often maintains avoidance. Therapy helps teens practise in‑person skills safely.

5. How long until my child feels better?

With weekly CBT and parent support, many children notice progress within 8–12 sessions.